Dear NN,
I am facing a problem attending close relatives weddings and such functions, at my home town. Everytime I attend such a thing, some relatives and wellwishers come and ask me ‘Naan yaar theriyaradha’, ‘Eppo kalyanam pannika pore’ and other such questions. Worst part is many people ask me such questions. How do I handle these people, and keep saying same thing time and again? Please help!
-Nostalgia Girija, sister of Vambu Vanaja
Dear Girija,
Actually many people who stay away from home face this problem. There is a simple technique which you can use. You might be having quite a few friends. And there would be people with whom you wouldn’t have talked for sometime. So what you can do is send a sms or mail to these friends, and tell them to call you at regular intervals. Like for instance if you are going to be at the wedding hall between 6.30 and 8 P.M. you can askl 5 friends to call at 6.45, 7, 7.15 etc. Nopw when someone is talking to you, the phone will ring. You can act busy and start talking. No one will wait for you to finish the conversation. Later when you meet the same person, you can say ‘Nimmadhiye poachu. Eppo paathalum phone’ and they will say ‘aamaamam. Ippo ellam ellarume ippadi dhaan iruka’. And moreover, you get to talk to your friends for sometime whih otherwise you might not have. One stone two mango. Dont worry about roaming rates, since the Telecom Dept has reduced the roaming charges 
on 02 Jun 2007 at 9:38 pm # Aparna
You spoke with many friends today?
on 02 Jun 2007 at 10:04 pm # kris
And worst is when you meet them in some wedding, their Q would be when is yours??
An interesting answer someone told me. He/She when met same relative in another relatives death anniversary asked, “so when is yours??”
After that the relative never asked such a Q in a wedding..
on 02 Jun 2007 at 10:24 pm # couch potato
yea,rite ! adhuvum “enna theriyuthaanu” kelvikku badhil summa oru pechukku “theriyuthu”nnu sonnaa..udaney next qostiin ” yaaru sollu paakalaam ?” ..
Atleast KBC style-la oru 4 choice kuduthu kettaa nallaa irukkum ..
on 02 Jun 2007 at 11:10 pm # Merino
nice suggestion. another thing she can do is ask them a question… “eppo neenga unga husband-ai divorce panna poreenga? avarukkaaga naan kaathirukiren” or “ungalukkaaga naan waiting maamoi, seekiram unga wife-ai divorce pannunga”.,
on 03 Jun 2007 at 10:18 am # selvi
aama ivanhgalukku ellam vera velaiye illa…
//‘Naan yaar theriyaradha’//
unghale therinchu vechu naan enna panna poren nnu sollalam… appuram next question varathu
on 04 Jun 2007 at 10:06 pm # Shshhh....
sometimes I feel its better to invite our neighborhood isthri karan and paalkaari than these “ennai theriyutha” distant aunties and uncles… Maybe I can try that in my wedding
on 05 Jun 2007 at 1:52 am # LakshmiNarayanan
For the question?
Ennai theriyardha?
You can just answer “Ivlo pakathula nikkaringa theriama irukumaa?”
They will be amused and wont irritate u anymore.Just they will walk off saying “Vilayaatu Pulla”
Tried and tested!!!!
on 05 Jun 2007 at 9:20 pm # anonymous
And for the “nee eppo kalyana saapaadu poda pore” you can always answer:
“Unga ponnu (or paethi) enna kattika sammadicha udane adutha muhurtham la kalyana saapadu poatuta poachu.”