Dear NN,
I am getting married pretty soon. But the thing is, I don’t know how to tie a Dhoti. Am scared if it will fall down. And I haven’t worn blazer, tie and stuff in my life 
Is there some person who teaches these things?
-Vesh.Tee, T.Nagar (Behind Venkatanarayana Road Venkatachalaphy temple). Bus Route. 12C, 13, 10, 47A
Dear Vesh.Tee,
Dont worry about the Dhoti part. The Sasthrigal will teach you how to wear it. Its the part of the package. Just remember, not to take a deep breath whilst the sasthrigal is tying the Dhoti. Its ok. He wont go and tell people that you have a tummy. And forget about the blazer and tie stuff. A bunch of your close friends/relatives and some from the girls side(Carefully shortlisted by the brides father) will come to help you(Ishtamithra Bandhus). You might wonder, what 6 to 8 people are doing in your room. But then thats the way these relatives are pacified by the families. That they are so important, they get into the bridegrooms room when he is getting ready. One of them will be knowing to wear the tie. but just pray that 2 or more dont know. If that happens, you might end up being a test piece for showcasing their tie knot 
All the best!
on 09 Apr 2007 at 3:20 pm # F e r r a r i
To whomsoever it may concern. This NN, just like others, is imaginary
So if you are planning to comment on me and what am going to do, forget it 
on 09 Apr 2007 at 4:53 pm # :)
Agreed , but did u think abt the bride ?… when some 20 ppl rush inside her room to help her tie the sari
on 09 Apr 2007 at 6:20 pm # Not anonymous anymore..:P
Good one! :-)It is actually quite weird to have people around you in the dressing room when all your life you’ve been taught to dress by yourself!!
on 09 Apr 2007 at 6:52 pm # SSShhhhhhh
I ve always wondered what went on inside the dressing rooms… Buthi therinji didnt go to any close relative’s marriage… But had the oppurtunity when my best friend got married.. Its actually fun there… not much to complain.. all relatives joking, and keeping up the tempo… So many suggestions… Nallathan irunthuthu.. Maybe NN would know at his wedding (in case he isnt married already )
Btw, why so many kalyana kelvigal to NN ???
on 09 Apr 2007 at 8:12 pm # barbi bharadwaj
short listed by bride’s father? by what qualifications?
on 10 Apr 2007 at 5:26 am # selvi
mappilai room le kooda intha thollai thana… i thought ponnu room le mattum than nnu…
rule vaikanum… ponnu room le… only make up artiste and the ponnu’s best friend (make up ellam sodapal na solrathukku)… other than that no one else… illathi aalukku oru opinion kooduthu… especially the old aunties…
on 10 Apr 2007 at 9:55 am # ramya
good observations.
but one has to go through this..;) so be prepared!
on 10 Apr 2007 at 11:31 am # sundar narayanan
you are not going to believe it. My FIL tried teaching me how to wear a tie at the reception. he found out that I hated it and his attempt at bonding with the “tie” experience was actually backfiring. so he tied it around his neck, then transferred the whole thing with the knot to my neck. I still had that knot 7 years later and used it everytime I had to interview !!!
and dont worry about the panchakachcham either. they will wake you up the day of the wedding at say 4:30 am (guys with pipi, thavil etc. will come to your door) they will pour cold water on your head to wake you up, then the saasthrigal will teach you how to wear it. he might even say “nalla paththukko pa. inime nee ippidi dhan veshti kattanum!”. you can only glare at him with murderous rage, because the wedding will be stopped if you actually murder him!
you have no idea what awaits you ferro..
on 10 Apr 2007 at 12:40 pm # spkarthi
one small kid running out of the room saying “mappillaikku vesti katta theriyallayam”